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Let’s Talk About Abortion – Shall we?

Do not read this if you are not Pro-Life or Conservative, it will just irritate you and baffle you. I’m sorry to say that but it’s true.

You can call yourself whatever you like. But there are two things that you need to know if you are Catholic and want to remain IN GOOD STANDING:

Number One – You can not be an abortion proponent.
Number Two – You can not be pro-choice. It’s a copout, not a stance.

Eight years ago, I had the fantastic Privilege of signing up to speak on behalf of unborn babies at the State Capital of Texas. I have switched blogs since I wrote the below post. I have changed it slightly to update year count and things. However, in light of one of the most important reasons to vote for President Trump, and against Mr. Biden – who has recently said he would “make Roe V. Wade the law of the land”, I am resurrecting past abortion posts.



Here is an article today about Wendy Davis. Apparently she is a hero to some. I feel that I can not let that stand. I feel like I have to speak out for myself and others like me who do not think she is a hero… and here is why:

Let’s be honest folks…

1) If Ms. Davis was really concerned with what the women of Texas wants, she would have allowed the vote to take place. She knew the bill would go through and filibustering was the ONLY way she’d keep it from happening.

2) If Ms. Davis cared about her constituents then she would not have allowed her team to delete all the Pro-Life comments from her FaceBook page. All the women who asked her to sit down. All of her constituents who did not want her to do this… completely ignored. She turned her backs on us. She silenced us. Well – she tried to. But I can tell you – she will NOT silence me. And she will NOT silence thousands of women like me.

Oh no, she is NOT my hero. She is not a friend of women and she should not be your hero either.  Like many other politicians, I believe Ms. Davis did what she did yesterday because she has higher aspirations and wanted to draw attention to herself. Time will tell if I am right.

The Facts:

Do you ever wonder why 40 years after Roe Vs. Wade, many states are restricting abortions? Yes, it is true. In 2012, 19 states enacted 43 provisions…. mandatory waiting periods, parental notification, and banning of 20+ weeks abortions.

Read this article HERE.

Did you know that people who have abortion have major issues with depression, suicide, etc.? This doesn’t even include the infections people get.  Google infection after abortion… you will be grossed out and dismayed if you read the articles you find.

  • Read this Post Abortion Page HERE.
  • Read this article HERE.

I had mine 38 years ago on November 10th, 1982. I ended up in the hospital weeks later with such a bad infection I had to stay there for over a week. I had to be carried into the hospital by a friend. I was 19. I was alone.  My dad out of the country, my mother long since out of my life (it was an off and on thing).  I had PID. I had scars the rest of my life. I had several miscarriages because my uterus never worked right again. I ruined my chance of having children. What pro-abortion women don’t admit or don’t understand is how much damage they do to themselves. And as their families find out as their friends find out – how much damage it does to relationships and to the psychology of who you are.

People – Tell the truth. Life after abortion is hard. It’s belittling. It’s judging. It’s beating yourself up. It’s crying in the hospital after a miscarriage at four and a half months because you know you caused this. It’s a hole in your heart that God fills, but the devil never lets you forget. It is grappling with forgiving yourself. It is many conversations with a Priest who finally tells you that God forgave you long before you will forgive yourself. THANK YOU FATHER HENRY, Melbourne, FL – 1984.

If you have had an abortion and you say that don’t remember every moment of the day, every second of that moment, and if you say you haven’t mourned that child thousands of times since then – then you are lying. I know the pain because I LIVE IT!  Tell the truth.

I don’t know how I finally got lucky enough after many miscarriages and so much struggle to have my child. I wanted 6+, I have one… .and he is a gift from GOD! A true gift.  God knew how sorry I was and how much I wanted a child. He blessed me… not because I deserved it, but because I am forgiven.

There are monetary effects on our economy – as in we taxpayers are funding a lot of abortions. There are mental and physical effects/affects on the women who have them for decades to come. I am not judging anyone who has abortions. Clearly I am in no position to do that. What I am doing is trying to make you think about the long-term affects of abortion.

If you have had an abortion, you need to know this:

  • God will forgive you.
  • You are not a hypocrite if you stand with Pro-Lifers later.
  • All of your Catholic and Christian friends do not hate you. We love you. We are not judging you. They did not judge me – even though I really thought they would. I kept my secret for decades, never thinking I was good enough or that my friends would still love me. They do… and so will yours.  The ones that don’t – and there will always be some, they will answer to God. Believe me… in the same way we all answer for our sins.
  • You are lessening your chances to have children and could cause many physical and mental issues for yourself.  Research it.
  • Please, please get all the facts before you do this. I’ll be praying for you and if I can help you, if you need to talk to me – contact me via your comment.
  • Oh and Ms. Davis – you may want to check into this: The Texas Senate Bill you tried to stop was voted on and passed – Thank you GOD! 

God is powerful and HIS WILL BE DONE!

I leave you with a link to and a quote from Our Blessed Saint Teresa of Calcutta’s 1994 Speech to the audience at the National Prayer Breakfast. Saint Teresa’s Speech

But I feel that the greatest destroyer of peace today is abortion, because it is a war against the child, a direct killing of the innocent child, murder by the mother herself. And if we accept that a mother can kill even her own child, how can we tell other people not to kill one another? How do we persuade a woman not to have an abortion? As always, we must persuade her with love and we remind ourselves that love means to be willing to give until it hurts. Jesus gave even His life to love us. So, the mother who is thinking of abortion, should be helped to love, that is, to give until it hurts her plans, or her free time, to respect the life of her child. The father of that child, whoever he is, must also give until it hurts.

By abortion, the mother does not learn to love, but kills even her own child to solve her problems. And, by abortion, that father is told that he does not have to take any responsibility at all for the child he has brought into the world. The father is likely to put other women into the same trouble. So abortion just leads to more abortion. Any country that accepts abortion is not teaching its people to love, but to use any violence to get what they want. This is why the greatest destroyer of love and peace is abortion.

Many people are very, very concerned with the children of India, with the children of Africa where quite a few die of hunger, and so on. Many people are also concerned about all the violence in this great country of the United States. These concerns are very good. But often these same people are not concerned with the millions who are being killed by the deliberate decision of their own mothers. And this is what is the greatest destroyer of peace today — abortion which brings people to such blindness.

I am not afraid of retribution. I am not brave for telling my story. I am an instrument of God. And He lights my way…

Hugs, Love & Blessings ALL,

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COVID INSANITY… it’s a thing y’all.

Dear Ones,

I don’t talk about a whole lot of politics on my blog, but I just want to remind anyone (you know, the three of ya) who reads my blog to research and look at conflicting views on things. Don’t just take your favorite news channel’s views on thing. And mostly – choose the view of The Church. YES – we have to follow the law of the land, but we are bound by our Faith to stand with God’s Rules. Currently there are so many infringements on our rights going on in our beautiful America, that my head is about to explode. More than that, common sense and logic are GONE! I feel like I am in an Eagle’s nest watching my beautiful country implode.

I think the isolation and fear of it all have gotten to so many otherwise sane people. I really want to believe there are a lot of good people left in the world. Let’s PRAY for that to be true. Because – COVID INSANITY… it’s a thing y’all.

I am framing a few posts about race and things, given that my family is bi-racial and I’m not going to be forced to choose which child I like better based on the color of their skin. I mean – who would do that? But I will be waiting to post them until I can state my position in a classy way, because it all kinda makes me angry. And I believe in tempering my words.

Which got me thinking… we need to teach our children to be good people, good listeners, and loyal friends. In the past week or so, I’ve been thinking about negative people… you know the kind who NEVER have a positive thing to say. It’s all about their way or what they desire and they are NEVER wrong. You know the type. The scatter the earth with rumors and lies and are narcissistic adults that bounce from friend to friend because they can’t keep friends long term. It’s so sad. I judge myself harshly for being so lost in the mire of life where you feel stuck in the negativity after so much as gone wrong – bogged down in the mud and much. But we must lift ourselves out of it brothers and sisters, by clinging to basic truths taught to us by Jesus.

Surround yourselves with good and loyal Christian people. Be the kind of spouse, friend, parent, family member others will admire and respect because they see Jesus in you. And for those you come across who don’t really know Jesus, use their ugliness as a reminder to pray for them. Truly – it will soften your heart.

Many of us are isolated. I’m in another country, for heaven’s sake. Mass is televised. It’s a sad time for us all. But we have the Saints and so many others to look to. Get out your Saint Books. Read your Bibles. Play Family Games. Bake for a neighbor. Exercise. But please, bite your tongue and say a Hail Mary or just call on the Holy Spirit instead of saying or doing something ugly. It’s enough already. For the record, if you feel like COVID is making you a bad version of yourself reach out to someone who will listen. I’m here. AND maybe look away from the news and insanity.

I pray your week is great. We spent the day cooking and prepping for the week yesterday – so I am feeling organized – Kinda.

Love, Hugs & Blessings All!
Lady Em

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Lady Em’s Been Featured…

Me, serving a sailor on Thanksgiving Day. I was the gravy and roll lady! lol

Dear Ones…
I have been meaning to hop on and say hi for several days.
First – I sure hope your Thanksgiving was fantabulous (if you celebrate Thanksgiving).

Thanksgiving week, I had the honor of serving with the USO. I welcomed people to the Naples Base at Area Orientation, and I served the single and unaccompanied sailors on Thanksgiving Day. Then I came home and we hosted about 12 total people here at Casa Davis.

Friday, we drove to my favorite Winery – Cantina di Solopaca and bought some vino….. and then to a Christmas Market at Castello Limatola. The rain ruined the Christmas Market trip, but I’ll share a few pics…

But one of the most exciting things that happened this weekend was that Anni at A Beautiful, Camouflaged, Mess of a Life featured me in her Bold, Brave, Catholic series. I’m so excited. Check out the post here – Bold, Brave, Catholic — Focusing on Forward. As Catholic Women, we sometimes sugar coat things. But y’all, we need to tell our stories. So many people hurt, because they feel like others have it all together, or have perfect lives – and nothing could be further than the truth.

I pray your Advent is going well. We are reading a Chapter of the Gospel of Luke, and I will be all decorated by this weekend. It’s a long story, but things in Italy are a constant challenge. And so – I do what I can.

And to tell you the truth, I’m not bold and brave… some days, like today, as I’m having a small health issue (stupid kidney stone)… I am in sweats and I just stay determined. And I’m so thankful for my faith and for good people who lift me up. And who “see me” for me.

Praying for you all. Truly – I am.

Love, Hugs & Blessings,


God Is Everywhere – Even in the Cinnamon Chips…

Happy Almost Thanksgiving ALL!

I just want to give you a little perspective.

Here in Italy, things are difficult. Some folks I talk to say “it’s just how it is here.”, and some folks I talk to say, “they won’t be after a while, once you get used to it!” I could list a litany of things that are awkward or odd… instead I will say this:

As you know, as Christians, we are called to trust God, in good and bad – praise HIM! If you know me, you know I struggle with being perfect and being very hard on myself… and I’m quite impatient to boot.

So when little things go wrong – I may or may not throw what could only be described as a temper tantrum. Usually I am alone, but God sees. And it’s embarrassing to me. But I am human and He loves me. Thank you Father.

YES – I’m getting to the cinnamon chips. Patience dear ones.

My husband and I love people and love entertaining. And for Thanksgiving and Christmas – it’s usually my job to bring the baked goods, whilst he cooks the meat. Well, this year, we are hosting Thanksgiving.  If you are in the Naples area… come on over! All are welcome.

10 am – Breakfast – Sausage, bacon, eggs, pancakes, grits…  Coffee, juice, mimosas/bloody Mary’s. It will All be there. 

6pm – Dinner – turkey and every trimming we can think of. Plus people are bringing things. And of course, I am baking. My zucchini bread with cinnamon chips (thank you @PreparedPantry) is a staple. People LOVE this bread.

On top of that – we made a ham, a couple sides, and baked goods for our Parish Pot luck.

Well, I nearly flipped my lid when I figured out I forgot to order cinnamon chips. Just so you know, my pantry was fully stocked in the US, but we are not allowed to ship any food items. Anyway… dejected… I went to the commissary to buy mini chocolate chips as a substitute. It was not going to be the same, but I was trying to be positive about it.

Here is what I posted: 
  • mrsedavis99

    God is everywhere. Yes, even in the Cinnamon Chips. So yesterday I was upset because I forgot to order my cinnamon chips for zucchini bread. I had to run get water and drinks for Thanksgiving… and I thought, “no one else makes them, but I will go down the baking aisle for mini chocolate chips.” And I am happy to say… someone else does make them AND there was exactly one bag.
    When you live in a strange land, where lots of little things go wrong. Even if you know they are #firstworldproblems you are so happy when you WIN even with something this small. I have been praying for a more appreciative attitude and the ability to rub off on others.
    #Godisinthecinnamonchipsyall #blessed#davislife #ladyemlivesinitaly#thanksgivingprep #praiseGodinallthings

I know, it sounds silly, maybe… but it’s so true. I mean, I just knew there was NO WAY I’d find them because I’ve only ever ordered them in bulk from a specialty store.  And I’m telling you, the only bag on the shelf – cinnamon chips. If that wasn’t God reaching out to me, I don’t know what is!

Various breads for Thanksgiving. Top of pic is the Zucchini bread.

Moral of the story – look for God in everything. He promised to be there for you and He is. FIND HIM! PRAISE GOD IN ALL THINGS! He will reward you… maybe with cinnamon chips. Just saying.

One of today’s Readings is 1 Samuel 15:22:

Does the Lord so delight in holocausts and sacrifices as in obedience to the command of the Lord? Obedience is better than scarce, and submission than the fat of rams

OBEDIENCE is hard for this stubborn girl. But I will keep seeking and perfecting and redirecting.

I took that WIN and thanked the Lord for it. That day, I found Him in the baking aisle in the commissary, and it was right where I needed to find Him. Where did you find God today? Don’t stop looking for Him. You will find Him!

Keep telling me to PRAISE HIM and I will tell you too.
Here are a couple verses that may help. Please share others in comments!

Jeremiah 29: 11 For surely I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans for your welfare and not for harm, to give you a future with hope. 

Habakkuk 3: 17 – 19 Though the fig tree does not blossom,    and no fruit is on the vines; though the produce of the olive fails, and the fields yield no food; though the flock is cut off from the fold, and there is no herd in the stalls,  yet I will rejoice in the Lord; I will exult in the God of my salvation.  God, the Lord, is my strength; he makes my feet like the feet of a deer, and makes me tread upon the heights.

I am lonely here, and missing my family/friends terribly. We have made new friends and we have good food and wine.  We will Thank God for it.  We will praise Him with all we have. Because THAT is what He requires of us. We will be obedient. And I am thankful for His guidance and that of our Church.

May you all be blessed and share love this Thanksgiving.
Hugs, Love & Prayers,



Meatless Friday – Whatcha Cooking?

Happy First Friday of Lent… the Friday after Ash Wednesday!

Today’s first reading in my Magnificat, struck me:

Sirach 34:26; 35:3 — A man who fasts for his sins, but then goes and commits them again: Who will hear his prayer, and what has he gained by his mortification? To refrain from evil pleases the Lord, and to avoid injustice is an atonement.

Folks, God knows we are going to sin… and in many cases, we will repeat sins (I may have sworn more than once…. SIGH); however, we are to busy ourselves with what pleases the Lord.  For me, I’m busy with my family and getting my life back in order. You?

As you know, today is a day of Abstinence in the Catholic Church.  We give up meat on Fridays in Lent.  My family gives up meat year round (with the exception of if we are traveling or we forget…. and then, we do a Family Rosary or another penance – as is the rule).

But I didn’t come here to lecture you on how to do your Lent. I came to ask you what you’re serving for dinner. So what’s it going to be?

Tonight on my menu is Garlic Shrimp with Roasted Vegetables. Although, my vegetables will look more like onions, asparagus, yellow squash, portobello mushrooms, tomatoes and I think that’s about it. ❤  You see, we are also using what we have in an effort to clean out our Fridge/Freezer and Pantry.

Have I ever told you about the Pantry Challenge? I found Jessica’s Blog maybe like ten years ago. Back then, it wasn’t as “salesy”…. I have introduced a few friends to the blog this past couple years and they don’t like it as much as I did back when. But I like her style, I have some of her cookbooks, and I dig her logic. I’ve been doing the Pantry Challenge along with her since probably 2008-ish. It’s a great way to use what you have and make room for new…  AND to go through and toss expired or old foods.   If you go to this post – HERE – it is the first post of this year’s challenge. Informative!

Here are a couple links from my blog with great ideas for Meatless Meals:

Listen, mamas with young children or MANY children.  You do what you can to meet the Lenten meal requirements, within budget and time constraints. Maybe you order cheese pizza or veggie pizza OR make them as a family! Serve the children Mac-n-Cheese with apples on the side. It does NOT have to be fancy. Our youngest is 14… I can do the above and it’s not hard. You know? I just want to make sure you know that.
Have a great rest of your Friday!
Love and hugs,